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Life At The Dramaturgical Approach
"Dramaturgy" is a easy concept to understand because we all know that we act in this approach everyday. We use dramaturgy in the way we come off to other people and how people understand us. It is the concept of the front stage and the back stage. We have our front stage, the stage we show other individuals. The way we want others to view us, the "proper" approach. We then have our back stage. This consists of how we actually feel about situations, ourselves and other people... more like the "natural" of it all. We never really think about dramaturgy because we are always interacting with other people. We always have our front stage on in order to do things properly. The front stage approach isn't a bad thing, in fact it is very useful. The issue with always carrying around the front stage of the self is that it can be easy to get caught up in this stage. Getting caught up in the front stage of the self, an individual can easily loose track of how they actually feel and what they actually believe in. We simply get caught up in acting in front of other individuals that we forget that other people have back stages as well. Thinking about this, a lot of our interactions are fake. These interactions are usually short and meaningless. Some won't realize this till later though, and thats where we get to be ourselves. Think about a bad day you once had. You were stuck at work, or at a event and you had to keep yourself together through a proper approach. I bet it wasn't easy, and as individuals we probably go through this a lot more than we realize. Every thought, every idea, you had to shut down in your mind. We shut down how we feel sometimes in order to keep the moment in time how it was "suppose" to be or simply because whatever we may be saying to ourselves will become rejected in many ways according to other people. We all understand this concept, but we need to focus on the backstage of it all. We never think of an individuals back stage because it isn't there, easy as that. It's what means the most and in order to keep in a thought we have to think about how other people are feeling. We will never necessarily know, but think of these moments where you treat someone the way you want to be treated. This way everyone's back stage is a little happier. To be honest, I'm sure this isn't as easy in today's world as we would like it to be. When we all start our day, we have to understand people are feeling the same as you. Everyone has been through hard situations in life, we all have loved, we all have lost, we all have won. Some people more than others but if you feel hurt one day you have to remember there a lot of other people out there like you. You realize there isn't much that makes people different from one another. It's about appearances and peoples front stages that make us think they are different from us. It's like why we are closer to some people and some not at all. Sure, a lot of people have different interests and views but a decent conversation between the two about feelings really won't change much. A lot of people don't understand this as it is so easy to judge people. People are a lot different than what it use to be like, there are all kinds of people out there now. We fail at certain interactions- in fact most of us don't give the opportunity at all. People are failing to understand everyone has a story. It is to understand, everyone has a story. A story that means something to them, a story that has changed them and a story that makes them who they are. I've never met anyone without a story and people fail at opening up to it. By sharing stories, you realize you in fact can have a lot in common with someone. So see it as this, the next time you are interacting with someone and are quick to judge whether it be for all their good qualities or bad qualities remember your story, think of their story and think about what is behind them. There is a lot laid behind someone that has forever changed them and it won't be the end for them nor for you.
Keep your head high- Be proud, be thankful, be happy for yourself and for everyone around you because we are all accomplishing something.
"Dramaturgy" is a easy concept to understand because we all know that we act in this approach everyday. We use dramaturgy in the way we come off to other people and how people understand us. It is the concept of the front stage and the back stage. We have our front stage, the stage we show other individuals. The way we want others to view us, the "proper" approach. We then have our back stage. This consists of how we actually feel about situations, ourselves and other people... more like the "natural" of it all. We never really think about dramaturgy because we are always interacting with other people. We always have our front stage on in order to do things properly. The front stage approach isn't a bad thing, in fact it is very useful. The issue with always carrying around the front stage of the self is that it can be easy to get caught up in this stage. Getting caught up in the front stage of the self, an individual can easily loose track of how they actually feel and what they actually believe in. We simply get caught up in acting in front of other individuals that we forget that other people have back stages as well. Thinking about this, a lot of our interactions are fake. These interactions are usually short and meaningless. Some won't realize this till later though, and thats where we get to be ourselves. Think about a bad day you once had. You were stuck at work, or at a event and you had to keep yourself together through a proper approach. I bet it wasn't easy, and as individuals we probably go through this a lot more than we realize. Every thought, every idea, you had to shut down in your mind. We shut down how we feel sometimes in order to keep the moment in time how it was "suppose" to be or simply because whatever we may be saying to ourselves will become rejected in many ways according to other people. We all understand this concept, but we need to focus on the backstage of it all. We never think of an individuals back stage because it isn't there, easy as that. It's what means the most and in order to keep in a thought we have to think about how other people are feeling. We will never necessarily know, but think of these moments where you treat someone the way you want to be treated. This way everyone's back stage is a little happier. To be honest, I'm sure this isn't as easy in today's world as we would like it to be. When we all start our day, we have to understand people are feeling the same as you. Everyone has been through hard situations in life, we all have loved, we all have lost, we all have won. Some people more than others but if you feel hurt one day you have to remember there a lot of other people out there like you. You realize there isn't much that makes people different from one another. It's about appearances and peoples front stages that make us think they are different from us. It's like why we are closer to some people and some not at all. Sure, a lot of people have different interests and views but a decent conversation between the two about feelings really won't change much. A lot of people don't understand this as it is so easy to judge people. People are a lot different than what it use to be like, there are all kinds of people out there now. We fail at certain interactions- in fact most of us don't give the opportunity at all. People are failing to understand everyone has a story. It is to understand, everyone has a story. A story that means something to them, a story that has changed them and a story that makes them who they are. I've never met anyone without a story and people fail at opening up to it. By sharing stories, you realize you in fact can have a lot in common with someone. So see it as this, the next time you are interacting with someone and are quick to judge whether it be for all their good qualities or bad qualities remember your story, think of their story and think about what is behind them. There is a lot laid behind someone that has forever changed them and it won't be the end for them nor for you.
Keep your head high- Be proud, be thankful, be happy for yourself and for everyone around you because we are all accomplishing something.
